Who the hell am I looking for?

I will admit first and foremost that I am no good at relationships, granted I do try to make them work... well, my exes can offer clarity on this issue, only two.

As I navigate through the harsh realities of life, what is it about a person that makes one stop and notice? What is that causes the selection of "the one"?

With worksheets and checklists, we cross off, tick and mark the many attributes that we seek. Through the dating process we will make adjustments and modify as we go along.

• Human
  
• Attractive
• Intelligent
• Good sense of humour
• Respectful
• Mature
• Athletic/Sporty
• Quiet
• A great conversationalist
• A good cook
• Independent
• Employed
  

Then you happens. How did I not see you coming? I was so vigilant, I was so adamant that I had earmarked what I wanted. Yet you changed it all. You confused me. Looking back, I realized it was only me. I had given myself permission.